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Exploring Possibilities: Make Rest of Your Life, Best of Your Life
We all know that Lord Ram is one of the most loved and respected incarnations of God. He is worshipped across the length and breadth of our country and even beyond it. As per the prevalent norms we worship and follow successful people. Is it so in the case of Lord Ram…was he really successful…
If we throw some light on the events of his life, we will find that his life was a continuous series of disasters. He lost his kingdom of which he was the rightful heir. Ends up in a forest. Even loses his wife, who got kidnapped, by the most powerful king on earth. He gets indulged and fights a brutal war in which he was not interested.
Brings back his beloved wife. After that he gets to hear undesired comments about his wife from his own countrymen. A wife who was extremely dear to him, was left in the forest, that too when she was on her family ways, never to see her again in life. Unknowingly gets into a battle with his children.
Gets defeated by them. Along with the shame and disgrace of that loss, also loses his wife, before he could meet him. Along with these endless smaller disasters were punctuated in his life. So why do people worship a person who had such a life of failure?
Significance of his life was not the success. It was about the gracefulness he conducted in his life. Even if only one of these events would have happened in our life we would have gone berserk. But never once was he seen angry, out of composure or freaking out and shouting at others.
Always carried the world of wisdom along. So external situations can go wrong any moment. As Sadhguru says, “it will not happen to me is a foolish way of living. Even if it happens to me, I will go through it gracefully, this is the wise way to live.”
Lets understand how this graceful conduct can help us in life. I remember reading a placard in an office, “today is the first day of the rest of my life”. I got so impressed with that, I made it a following principle of my life. Till yesterday I may have goofed up, but from today I am going to be a different person. When you walk on the road, you may find a sign, ‘no u turns’. In life there is no such signal.
You can take a u-turn at any time. Any moment you can say, hi this new me, and I am going to show who I am. Of course this is not going to be easy, there will be obstacles and obstructions. Now if I ask you what kind of cricket match do you enjoy? Perhaps most will agree that the match, which has lots of twists and turns. No one likes a match which is a one side affair.
Apparently every batsman walks down with the intention of hitting a century. Every bowler balls with an intention of taking a wicket. Whereas opponents many a time get batsmen out cheaply or hit a six to a bowler. In a football match one person has to hit a goal and an entire set of 11 opponents plan and plot to stop you. Imagine a match where one player runs and scores a goal without anyone blocking him.
Not even a single ticket going to be sold. Even the player won’t have any fun. Life itself is designed that way. If you badly want to achieve something in life, the whole world says, we will not allow you to get it. You pull up your sleeves and say, you feel so, you under estimated me boy, I will show you who I am.
Just be cognisant of one fact, like a football match you have eleven teammates to support you too. Identify those eleven of your life, just like Lord Ram did in form of Hanuman and his allies…and explore possibilities…all the best.
(The author is a Certified Designed Thinking Master practitioner and Clifton Certified Strength Finder Coach, Corporate Trainer and a Leadership coach. He is based in Lucknow, the capital of Uttar Pradesh, India.)